Here’s something that I have heard a lot and even heard it the other day….
That the past doesn’t matter and we should stop talking about the things that happened to us in the past and focus on the present and on our future.
What they are saying is that all the hurts we have been through in the past, the rejections, the betrayals, all the things we were told growing up that were not true we should act as if it none of it ever happened and instead focus on the future we want to build.
That the past basically never happened.
As much as I would love to agree with these gurus that teaches things like this, as much as I would love to pretend that I was never cheated on which caused me to fear relationships for many years.
As much as I would love to wave a magic wand and all the fears I HAD (don’t have them anymore) around making money and having money would be magically disappear and I am living an abundant life.
And to just act as if I never faced rejection for many years which affected every areas of comment including my business.
I would love to act as if none of that happened.
But it doesn’t work like that.
I had to do a lot of work on myself to be where I am today and I am still a working progress.
But I could not have done that without first acknowledging the past. Looking at all the money stories, success stories and stories I was told about myself worth and then work on changing these stories.
You have to first complete the past so you can build the future you want to build.
What does that mean? You have to face the past. Not ignore or pretend it never happened.
You know why many coaches and entrepreneurs are not able to charge what they are worth? Because they are still holding unto stories they were told and they haven’t acknowledged these stories and work on changing them.
You know why so many of us are struggling in relationships, money, business and life? It is because we haven’t completed the past.
Client A: Client A never thought he had a voice, that what he had to share, his message was good enough and anyone would want to listen to him. You know why? Because when he was 11 years old someone told him that he should shut up, what he has to say doesn’t matter. And he kept hearing the same story throughout his life and so he believed it to be true for him.
And for awhile it was working for him. He settled for a life that he really never wanted but nevertheless it was okay. But deep down he wanted more and so we worked together on the way he felt about himself, identify the unique value he brought to the marketplace and his gift. In less than 24hrs he was able to start doing things that took him more than 6 years today.
Client B: Client B never felt worthy or deserving because of what her parents told her. What was the result? She was not making the money she wanted to make and felt guilty for having money.
Client C: I had another client that messed up really badly in a relationship. When that relationship ended she felt undeserving of love again and anything good. Not good enough. She almost ruin what could be a great marriage in the future all because of mistakes she made in a past relationship.
If the past didn’t matter or had any affect on us, then they wouldn’t have had problems in their lives and business. You know when they started building the future they wanted? When they acknowledged the past and we started working on those emotional blocks or stories they were telling themselves.
If you want to build a great life, I am no way saying you should dwell on the past, but you first have to mend any broken pieces in your past so you can open doors for what you want to flow into it.
And that is one of the things I help my clients to do in my 12 weeks coaching program.
If you want to learn more about it and how I can help you to have the influence and the income, send me a message and lets have a conversation about this. Learn more about my Ignite Your Influence 90 days program and book your free 45mins call