After working and talking with both clients and acquaintances/friends around money, the reason why a lot of them are stuck financially is because of what they associate pain and pleasure to.
For example, I was talking to someone the other day who I just started working with about her money block. She has a fear of asking for money and hate talking about money.
As a result of her fear of asking for money she basically ran her former business like a charity, meaning she was not making any the money she could have made in her business.
She would give her products away instead of asking for the money because she hates saying no to people and would put herself last.
I see this same thing with other people I have worked or talk with. They have a fear of asking for money and talking about money because they are afraid of judgment, afraid of not being liked or accepted.
They are afraid that if they ask for the money, they will be judged or talked about and they want to please everyone. They want to feel accepted and liked.
But how do you break free from this shackle? These are just a few strategies to do this.
1. Become aware of your money block and how it is affecting your business and life. Awareness is key. If you are not aware of your blocks or the stories you are telling yourself you cannot create the change you want and you will remain stuck on a hamster wheel for the rest of your life.
Do you want 1 more years of the same thing?
2. Understand that you are not that child anymore. Our fear of asking for money and talking about money started when we were a child and so now we are living out a story, a decision we made when we were a child. We don’t feel worthy, good enough. For my client it started when she was 7 years old and having someone making every single decision for her.
For me, it started before I was 10 years and I would asked my parents for money and they would basically made me feel as if I should not be asking for money. Right then I made a decision or created a story that money wasn’t available to me. I didn’t deserve it, I am not worthy to be given money as a child and have all my needs and wants meant. It started at about age 10 and I did not break free from it until I started coaching and started to really look at my money blocks.
What is your story? You are not that child anymore.
That means you will have to confront your past because what you don’t confront remains hidden below the surface calling the shots. You are not calling the shots, at least your conscious mind isn’t. It is time to take control of your money story.
You are not that child anymore. You have knowledge, skills and expertise that you never had as a child. You are more resilient than you were back then.
3. Face your fear. If you are afraid of talking about money, go and do it. Find 5 people and just talk to them about money, including how much money you want to be making per month. If you are afraid of asking for money, find 10 people and ask them for money. This is not about them giving you the money, it is you becoming aware that you don’t need to be afraid to ask for money.
What’s the worst thing that could happen? The worst that could happen is them saying no to you. And so what if they say no? No is not a death sentence and they are not saying no to you, they are saying no to the request you made. If you want $1,000, go out and ask for it. If they say no, find the next person and ask them for money. It could be your mother, a prospective client or customer, just find 10 people and ask them for money.
Face your fear.
4. Make a public declaration: I am worthy of money. I am worthy of being generously paid and I deserve it.
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